The Lighthouse Blog FEED

Every January, people set bold goals and then quietly watch them fall apart. This has nothing to do with laziness or lack of willpower. It has everything to do with how your brain is wired for survival. In this article, I explain why big goals and “challenges” trigger self-sabotage, how trauma and pressure play a role, and how to set goals that actually work with your nervous system instead of against it.

The hype around “healthy masculinity” is getting louder - and more toxic. Instead of supporting men, it adds pressure, shame, and endless expectations. Masculinity isn’t a trend or a performance. It’s a grounded way of being human with strength, integrity, compassion, and self-respect. When we understand both sides of the equation, the conversation becomes clearer, kinder, and far more honest.

I’ve lived through darkness most people never see - and yet I’ve met men with integrity, kindness, and depth that changed everything I believed about them. This blog is the first time I speak openly about the experiences that shaped me and why I still dedicate my work to helping good men find their way back to themselves.