Every January, people set bold goals and then quietly watch them fall apart. This has nothing to do with laziness or lack of willpower. It has everything to do with how your brain is wired for survival. In this article, I explain why big goals and “challenges” trigger self-sabotage, how trauma and pressure play a role, and how to set goals that actually work with your nervous system instead of against it.

Christmas often intensifies pressure, loneliness, and unspoken exhaustion. This post explores why kindness matters more than ever, how small boundaries protect your energy, and why checking in on the people who always seem “fine” can change everything. Especially at this time of year.

I’ve lived through darkness most people never see - and yet I’ve met men with integrity, kindness, and depth that changed everything I believed about them. This blog is the first time I speak openly about the experiences that shaped me and why I still dedicate my work to helping good men find their way back to themselves.