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Stop Fighting Your Brain: A Smarter Way to Set Goals That Actually Stick

Every January, people set bold goals and then quietly watch them fall apart. This has nothing to do with laziness or lack of willpower. It has everything to do with how your brain is wired for survival. In this article, I explain why big goals and “challenges” trigger self-sabotage, how trauma and pressure play a role, and how to set goals that actually work with your nervous system instead of against it.

Heike Schimanski

3 min read

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Be kinder than you think you need to be this Christmas

Christmas often intensifies pressure, loneliness, and unspoken exhaustion. This post explores why kindness matters more than ever, how small boundaries protect your energy, and why checking in on the people who always seem “fine” can change everything. Especially at this time of year.

Heike Schimanski

4 min read

A calm, wide ocean, blue sky, mixed coloured clouds, gentle waves. In the foreground on a gravelled beach: two natural rocks, that look similar to standing stones, leaning against each other, supporting each other. One is a little shorter than the other. They are symbolising steadiness, clarity, and grounded strength. balance, honesty, and quiet power. They are symbolising the balance between feminine and masculine power.

Why ‘Healthy Masculinity’ Is Getting More Toxic Instead of Better

The hype around “healthy masculinity” is getting louder - and more toxic. Instead of supporting men, it adds pressure, shame, and endless expectations. Masculinity isn’t a trend or a performance. It’s a grounded way of being human with strength, integrity, compassion, and self-respect. When we understand both sides of the equation, the conversation becomes clearer, kinder, and far more honest.

Heike Schimanski

4 min read

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What Shaped Me (And Why I Still Believe In Good Men)

I’ve lived through darkness most people never see - and yet I’ve met men with integrity, kindness, and depth that changed everything I believed about them. This blog is the first time I speak openly about the experiences that shaped me and why I still dedicate my work to helping good men find their way back to themselves.

Heike Schimanski

6 min read